Let Talk About Sex #1

By | Lifestyle, Sex

Sex has always been a hot topic.

Fortunately, with each passing generation we have become more knowledgeable and forthright in our on-going discussions regarding the subject. Unfortunately, in our society, sex is often portrayed through a singularly youthful lens. When we think about sexual health in a medical sense, we often focus our attention on safe-sex practices for teenagers and young adults or on women’s fertility matters, which often revolve around the ovulation cycle. However, an important age group that largely gets overlooked in this topic are older adults including pre- or post-menopausal women.

One of the more disconcerting aspects of aging is the loss of libido and, regardless of one’s proclivity, our sexual health and activity is a very important part of our physical and emotional lives. Libido has been described as the life force, but is most often regarded as our sex drive. One of the main things we learn to recognize as we grow and age is our sexual feelings and needs. As we mature these feelings and needs change, but regardless of our age sexual activity is understood to be a health benefit in quite few ways.

Not only does sex burn calories and count as exercise It has been found that sexually active people have improved immune systems, lower blood pressure, lower risk of heart attack, better-quality sleep, relief of stress and yes, improved libido or one’s desire for more sex. Other benefits include a smoothing of the skin due to the estrogen released during sex and for women sexual activity lowers the risk of incontinence by strengthening the pelvic floor. Sex has been shown to ease menstrual cramps and boost self-esteem and, due to the physical work out one gets from sexual activity, it causes the brain to release chemicals that boost one’s serotonin levels which elevates mood.

Sex also strengthens the emotional and physical bond between one’s partner and themselves and therefore the loss of libido not only affects us, but also impacts our partner as well. Age is not the only factor in the loss of libido and throughout the years our libido may fluctuate due to external changes as well as the internal changes that affect us. From observation and experience we all know that hormones are raging in our teenage years and while this may be true there are some studies that have shown that a woman’s libido actually peaks between age of 27-45. Unfortunately, there is no way to put libido into a neat little group package since everyone’s health, emotional life and external surroundings are not all the same.

It’s not uncommon for an eighteen-year-old woman who has just delivered a baby to share the same lack of enthusiasm for sex as the thirty-year-old woman in the same situation. Stress, depression and lack of sleep can be some of the culprits interfering with one’s libido while medications and lack of exercise can also adversely affect one’s sex life. A woman who is breast feeding may suffer a loss of libido due to the combination of the increase of prolactin and oxytocin hormones which can bring a woman great pleasure from nursing her child. Since her emotional and physical intimacy needs may be met by the activity there may be a decrease in libido as she may not feel the need or desire to seek physical attention from her partner.

Hormonal imbalance or change affects a woman’s libido and quite often is the cause of decreased sexual desire. A postpartum woman may lose her desire due to a sharp drop in estrogen, the hormone that makes a woman feel sexually motivated. Other reasons for loss of sex drive could also be due to a medical condition such as hyperthyroidism. Hyperthyroidism is when the thyroid produces too much of the hormone thyroxine with some of the symptoms being irritability, fatigue, irregular heartbeat and loss of libido.

While there are various drugs such as sildenafil (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis) and vardenafil (Levitra) successfully offered to men regarding erectile dysfunction, there are relatively few comparable drugs for woman when it comes to a lack of sexual desire or arousal. Since Viagra improves blood flow to the male genitals, allowing for sustained erections, it had been thought that the drug would have a similar effect for woman. Unfortunately, this theory didn’t hold up in the few studies that were done, but recently the FDA did approve two drugs for treating low libido in premenopausal women. Flibanserin (Addyis) and bremelanotide (Vyleesi) are the two FDA approved drugs for premenopausal woman who are experiencing low libido. Unfortunately, they both come with warnings about adverse side effects such as dizziness and nausea and, just to set the mood, Vyleesi needs to be injected into the abdomen about forty-five minutes prior to sexual activity. Both drugs have only about a 10% effectiveness and come with a list a of possible side effects ranging from nausea to vertigo, none of which does anything to enhance a woman’s sexual desire.

As we age our bodies change and we become more vigilant about taking care of our health. Women take prophylactic measures for early warning signs of cancer by getting yearly mammograms. Diets are observed to keep weight in check and to avoid unhealthy eating habits that can lead to various health concerns. In many cases medications are required to lower cholesterol and blood pressure and vitamin intake is boosted to ward off osteoporosis. After the age of fifty regularly scheduled colonoscopies are performed to detect abnormalities in the large intestine. Dermatologists require a visit to ensure the health of our skin, as well as providing a way to cosmetically enhance one’s natural beauty. A visit to the cardiologist helps to guarantee that the heart will stay healthy and an appointment with a gynecologist is important in safeguarding a woman’s sexual health.

Any gynecologist is perfectly capable of testing for and treating a disease, but when it comes to receiving information regarding a woman’s sexuality it is often difficult to get clear answers. This is especially true regarding women who have gone through menopause and, while sexual problems are common in about half the women between the age of 45 and up, only about 10%-15% actually discuss these issues with their doctor. Often shame and embarrassment hinders a forthright conversation regarding sexuality and a reported common complaint has been that the doctor does not take the complaints seriously; explaining them as “that time of life.” It’s frustrating and disheartening to be disregarded and it’s understandable that a woman would get depressed upon hearing that nothing can be done to mitigate the lack of desire, arousal and orgasm.

Menopause marks the end of a woman’s menstrual cycle and while it can occur in a woman’s 40’s or 50’s the average age is 51 years old. This is a time when a woman’s ovaries stop producing high levels of the hormone estrogen, progesterone and testosterone and with these hormonal changes come mood swings and vaginal dryness accompanied by painful sex. If a woman who has reached the age of menopause has a partner it’s probable that the partner would be approximately the same age, if not older. All of which compounds the sexual problems since the partner would probably be experiencing the same lack of libido. Embarrassment and lack of response can keep a couple from having an emotionally and physically satisfying sex life.

Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) can help both men and woman regain their loss of libido and help restore intimacy to the relationship. There are both estrogen and testosterone creams and pills that can be utilized to restore one’s lost libido, as well as compounds containing Oxytocin and Arginine. One of the better methods for delivering the hormones Estrogen and Testosterone is through the use of subcutaneous bio-identical hormone pellets. These pellets are painlessly inserted in the hip, under the skin. They last for three to four months and release the hormones as naturally needed, helping to lift one’s mood, charging one’s libido and restoring intimacy in a relationship.

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New Year, New You. Bring Balance Back!

By | Diets, Lifestyle

New Year, New You.
Bring Balance Back!

The dreaded month of January has finally hit.

The start of the New Year is always a sluggish one – bringing with the all-loving holiday hangover. After several months of celebrations, we tend to feel overly tired and full. With all the alcohol and food consumption, the stress of gift buying, late nights of partying and long periods of family socialization, all we really want to do is stay in bed and recover. Yet, January tends to be one of the busier months of the year when it comes to work! Why is this? Well, to start, the past few months seem to be filled with fun and play – so as soon as January 2nd hits, along with the looming guilt we’ve ignored all December, we try to make up for lost time by getting back into a routine as quickly as possible. It’s the classic case of bouncing back from a binge.

Often, we want to make our New Year comeback and be strong about it, but we’re still not feeling 100 percent in our ability to successfully do so. There’s nothing to fret about though, we do this every year and many of us usually manage to get back to where we want to be. However, the key to do this in the most effective and efficient manner, is by staying balanced. Below are several tips on how to bring balance back into your life and restore, rejuvenate, and reinvent your best self:


Getting the Best use out of your gym time:

The gym seems to be one of the most popularly visited destinations during the months of January to March. While any gym-goer will recognize the increase in local gym-foot-traffic, it is important that those heading to the gym after a long break understand that long-lasting benefits have to be attainable. If you return back to the gym in an intense manner, you’ll likely burn yourself out within the first month. Rather than creating intense regimens for yourself, such as two-a-day spin classes, try easing your way back into a steadily growing routine. Start by taking a yoga class or focusing on soft core exercises while incorporating a form of light cardio into your daily workout. Slowly, you can build up your stamina and increase these cardio workouts, but it is important to ease your way back into training. In fact, overexerting yourself in exercise at any time can cause a variety of health issues down the line. According to a Business Inside article published last year, women who participated in daily strenuous workouts were at increased risk for heart attack or stroke.

For those who have a hard time getting back into an exercise regimen, or if working out was never really your thing in the first place, try taking several long walks throughout the week. Whether it be outside, in a mall or on a treadmill, walking between 10,000 –14,000 steps a day can greatly enhance your mind, body and overall health and wellbeing. Even a brisk walk for a mile or two just a couple days a week will yield benefits.

Finding sustainability in a diet:


We can’t stress this enough: Do not crash diet! This form of dieting is never the right solution to losing weight and maintaining long-term results. Along with being unhealthy and sending your body into unexpected shock – it doesn’t last! We know that sometimes you need to see fast results and get in shape for a special event, but this method is rarely an effective one if you’re looking for lasting effects. After the holidays, many people want to lose the packed-on pounds instantaneously. However, one month of eating poorly will not set you so far behind that there is no comeback in sight. Start with simple and achievable dieting goals. Cut processed sugars and limit your starch intake. You should make sure you are still eating at least three meals a day. Some people prefer eating small meals throughout the day and see their best results when eating light portions in intervals of every few hours. Regardless, eating healthy, whole foods will get you back on track quicker than you think. One of biggest problems with crash dieting is the mental component. We all want to feel good, but we can’t feel good if our body is not getting the proper nutrients it needs. In order to perform our best, physically and mentally, our bodies need to be fed – and fed the right things. A few simple examples of healthy meals, and what we like to recommend after the holidays can include:

Steal cut oatmeal with fresh blueberries and a splash of almond milk or a tablespoon of peanut butter

Mixed green salad seasoned with balsamic vinegar and light olive oil and topped with two hardboiled eggs or a piece of grilled chicken.

Grilled salmon sautéed with cocoaminos with a baked yam and a boiled artichoke, roasted cauliflower for the side.

Be sure to incorporate regular light snacks in between. Nuts, fruits, or carrots with hummus are all great options.

Mental health first:

Along with the rush of getting back to work, and the various other pressures we put on ourselves this time of year, it’s important to remember that in order to reach our maximum potential in productivity, we must be in a sound state of mind. Make time in your day to practice meditation or destressing techniques. While we may have high energy in our eagerness to make our biggest and best comebacks, it is essential to slow down and take a breather in between efforts. All it takes is 5-10 minutes out of your day. Whether it’s waking up early to sit in a still, quiet space; taking a midday break to write down how you’re feeling; or clearing room in the evening to read a chapter of a book – peaceful contemplation and reflection will enhance the turnout of your day. You can find some more mental health balancing tricks here.

There are many small routines we can incorporate into our daily schedules which will offer long-lasting solutions to our overall health. Often, we put too much energy into one area of life and forget the benefits of having the presence of balance. As the saying goes, “Everything in moderation”. These words apply to both your labor and productivity as well, determining the quality of your results. Take your time getting back into your groove and make sure you are paying attention to all elements of your life. If you are feeling more down than usual at the start of this year, consider your nutritional health and whether you are receiving the proper treatment and support. It is important to consult with your doctor to make sure your daily vitamin regimen is up to date and to examine any other internal factors that may be causing fatigue or moodiness. Hormonal imbalances, lack of sleep, stress, diet, and underlying medical issues can all contribute to changes in your body. The Balanced Woman has specialists available to talk and help you with all your health needs. If you need assistance in balancing your health this New Year, call us today or schedule an appointment here.

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